I Corinthians 13:4-8
“4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails…”
I popped on over to Facebook yesterday to see what had been going on over the past few days with my friends and family. Some had been enjoying the leftovers of a rarely occurring snow storm. Another had been surprised by her boyfriend with a trip to NYC. One was reveling in his newly purchased Microsoft Kinect, while still another was lamenting her toddler’s tantrum-filled week. I read through these updates with some interest, but one update in particular gave me pause.
“What is love?” (or, to be more accurate, “…wat is lovee?? to u??) was the gist of the post belonging to my niece. She is approaching that age when friends begin to pair off and be “in love” for the first time. She had been hearing these friends talk about loving each other, and was wondering what this love stuff was all about. Remember that time? Oh, I am so glad that I don’t have to live through it again.
This update was one I felt compelled to respond to, almost as if I had been given a chance to go back and give my own younger self some sage advice that might have made a difference in the way I perceived life and love. And so I responded:
“Hmmmm… I think sometimes what people call Love is just not love at all, but just a feeling they have. Love is not a feeling. Love is a choice you make each and every day to put the wants and needs of others above your own, even if it means going without, or not getting what you want. It is a choice to care for others before you care for yourself. It is a choice to give without expecting anything in return. That’s what love is, in my humble opinion. (check out 1 Corinthians chapter 13, verses 4-8 for a better explanation of what love is.)””
I realized as I was writing my response to her question that I was reciting I Corinthians 13:4-8 in my head. That really is the best answer to that question. It tells you what Love is, and what Love is not. And the best part is, it applies to any type of relationship. Mother/daughter, friend/friend, brother/sister, husband/wife. Real Love looks the same in any situation.